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Do you believe in words or action

Posted by Mohammed Nazari on Wednesday, May 21, 2014 Under: Logic First - Emotion Third

Do you believe in words or action

Author: Mohammed Nazari

Sometime ago I had a client who came to see me for his lower back pain. I am a physical therapist by profession. After my assessment I explained my findings and my suggested treatment.

Previous to him starting treatment with me he had seen a specialist who had referred him for MRI.

My diagnosis was that he had some mechanical problems. Although he had some degeneration, it did not seem to be any worse than normal for his age plus his symptoms seemed to be originated from a mechanical issue and not his normal degeneration.

After a few treatments where he was improving fairly good, he saw his specialist for a follow up and to discuss the MRI results. The specialist told him that his back problem was mainly due to his lower back degeneration and that it was not fixable.

At this point when he came back to me for his follow up visit, he shared with me what the specialist had told him seeing the MRI result.

Although he was improving fairly reasonably and the fact that I explained that there is some False positive and False negative results when it comes to MRI, after his visit with the specialist he was convinced that his lower back was not going to improve.

At this point I asked him, Do you believe in words or Action?

The reality is "what is happening" and not "what is supposed to be happening"

The reality is that you are improving, less pain and more movement and strength, however based on the MRI report you are not supposed to be improving:) Which one do you believe in!

Another example is when people talk nice but no action.

As a matter of fact most people and societies who do create and live in a fantasy world where they believe in words more than actions and reality, end up having not so happy lives. Since in order to stay happy they should stay in their fantasy world, which will push them away from the reality that everyone else is living in. Good market for pot sellers though:)

Although messages of false hope might be calming in a short run, but in a long run puts people in hallucination and far from reality. This is very dangerous.


Another one is Religion. Almost all religions promote peace, Love and helping one another but the reality is that most serious crimes are done in the name of religion, and not as much due to greed for money or power. Religious wars tend to become the bloodiest and goes on for generations while economic wars go on for short spurts. Such as world war one and two, they were bloody at the time but finished in short years without being carried as hate for generations between the nations. Versus Religious and ideological wars such as Israel and Palestine, Where the war and the hate is carried on forever. Although some may say it is war for land, I strongly disagree. If both sides had the same religion or no religion at all, this would not have lasted this long and it would become like united Europe.

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A Personal Journey (Speech)

Author: Mohammed Nazari

Please find the link to the YouTube videos below

Part 1: https://youtu.be/A4BzmJ7jwOg

                               Part 2: https://youtu.be/JufeK2G-U8E

  •  It is amazing, when you have a big "goal" in mind, most other big "problems" look like small "challenges"       
  • Education in Canada is more practical than in the east which is more theoretical. After all you can find the theory in books or online, without needing to go to school.

Reasons for my failure as an employee:

1. Higher Canadian standards and sensitivity level  

2. My defensive behavior    

  •  Blaming  your behavior or action does not mean blaming you as a person
  • One for all, All for one

3. Inability to be honest with my own feelings  

  • Pride that has no basis, doesn't allow you to be honest.

4.  Canadian are too polite to be honest   

  •  If you don't have anything nice to say then don't say anything
  • Read between the lines

 Resolution:

  •  Knowledge of higher/different Canadian standards and simply following versus questioning them
  •  Longer orientation
  •  Welcoming comments and asking for further explanation versus defending our self
  • Being honest with our feelings and abilities:

o   Acknowledging your weakness is a sign of honesty and makes you stronger.

  • Asking versus commenting:

o   Don't assume, ask question

o   Don't comment, ask question

o   Don't judge, ask question

o   When in doubt, ask question

o   When you think you know, ask questions to clarify

o Comments are not welcome, questions are

ยท         What kind of question?

1. Open ended and unbiased questions

2. Yes-No questions to clarify

When you have a car problem whom you ask for help? your Doctor, mother or mechanic.

Although this question seems silly, we make this mistake all the time, asking a professional question from people outside of that profession and building opinions.

  • Ask questions from the right person(s). The ones with proven success.

 

You will learn more from the successful people who can show you how to succeed.

Unsuccessful people can show you how not to fail the way they did.

 While the pathways to success are few, there are multiple pathways to fail.

Which one is easier and more effective to learn?

 Uncle Google and my cousin YouTube can help you with any questions.

Starting my own business

  •  In order to have a good society/business, good structure is more important than good people.
  •  The main sources of work/interpersonal problems are: communication and expectations.
  •  Interpersonal skills are not just talking nicely but much more importantly is to follow a structure and    framework, even if it is not the best structure.
  • Having a poor structure is better than having no structure

I would I would recommend that you ask my uncle and cousin, Google and YouTube, about the following:

follow

  • Active listening
  •  Critical thinking
  • Yes-No question
  • Open ended question
  • how to be honest with oneself

 

After all My success and happiness depends on your success and happiness.

Let us make life better for all of us.