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Entitlement to our history is a source for evil

Posted by on Tuesday, August 19, 2014 Under: Logic First - Emotion Third

                                               Entitlement to our history is a source for evil


                                                            Author: Mohammed Nazari


I was born in Iran. Iranian often take big pride in our old history. Often we prefer to call ourselves as Persian versus Iranian. After all Persia is known as an old emperor while Iran is known for trying to develop nuclear bomb and a trouble maker.

Sometime ago along with Donna, a Canadian friend of mine, on Youtube.com, we were watching a documentary on old Persian empire and the wars they had with Greek empire. This is going back to 2500 years ago. These two emperor had many wars back and forth, destroying and burning each others countries trying to take control of one another.

As I was watching this documentary when I saw the Persian emperor winning, I kind of felt proud and was ok with the crime they did to the Greek. However as the documentary continued it reached a point where the Greek were winning and destroying the Persian empire. Donna turned back and said: "look the Greek kicked your ass". At this time I took things more personal, getting mad to the extent that I thought I should go to this very good Greek friend of mine, James, and kick his ass for what the Greek did to Persian 2500 years ago. Forgetting what Persian did to the Greek in the first place and the fact that this goes back 2500 years ago and it has nothing to do with me and James.

I believe one main reason that I felt that way was that when watching this documentary

1. I felt more Persian and

2. to top it up, Donna called me Persian as well, attaching me to the 2500 years prior Persian emperor.

What happened 2500 years ago, victories or defeats, good or bad, pride or shame and so on, has nothing to do with me. I should not have felt any connection nor others should have connected me to my past. In another word:

 

Entitlement to our ancestors history is a BAD thing, since at the same time we have to carry the shame of their failures, while we have had no role in either.

This will result in being attached and stuck to the past, stopping us from being free and improving.

As a matter of fact most of wars, discrimination and prejudice is simply due to this simple mistake of entitlement and attaching our self to our past and/or others to their past that has nothing to do with us or them.

Although we do get affected, learn and taught from our past we should not attach our self or others to the past generations. Letting our self and others to be free and open minded.

I did watch the same documentary at a different time, this time all by myself and practiced what I preach in here, not thinking of myself as a Persian nor Iranian but as an outsider, someone who was born in Iran as luck and not a choice. While I am not proud nor ashamed of it, it is simply what it is.

This time I did not get too excited either way, when the Persian won nor when they got defeated by the Greek. I felt rather peaceful. I never felt that I should beat the crap out of my Greek friend, James, anymore. And as a matter of fact I saw a lot of details that I never saw the first time, simply because the first time I was opinionated and wanted to see what I wanted to see and took things rather personal.

 It is amazing how peaceful, rational and non judgmental one can be when there is no emotional attachment.

Please read my other blog "Who are you" and the difference between "Inherited versus Acquired identity".

I strongly believe a good portion of all HATE between the countries, nations, religions, ethnicities and so on will be eliminated simply by understanding this concept.

It is ignorant when:

1. We judge, like or dislike others for their past generations history or any other out of their control factors or

2. When we take pride or feel ashamed of our self for our past generations history or any other out of our control factors.

In : Logic First - Emotion Third 



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A Personal Journey (Speech)

Author: Mohammed Nazari

Please find the link to the YouTube videos below

Part 1: https://youtu.be/A4BzmJ7jwOg

                               Part 2: https://youtu.be/JufeK2G-U8E

  •  It is amazing, when you have a big "goal" in mind, most other big "problems" look like small "challenges"       
  • Education in Canada is more practical than in the east which is more theoretical. After all you can find the theory in books or online, without needing to go to school.

Reasons for my failure as an employee:

1. Higher Canadian standards and sensitivity level  

2. My defensive behavior    

  •  Blaming  your behavior or action does not mean blaming you as a person
  • One for all, All for one

3. Inability to be honest with my own feelings  

  • Pride that has no basis, doesn't allow you to be honest.

4.  Canadian are too polite to be honest   

  •  If you don't have anything nice to say then don't say anything
  • Read between the lines

 Resolution:

  •  Knowledge of higher/different Canadian standards and simply following versus questioning them
  •  Longer orientation
  •  Welcoming comments and asking for further explanation versus defending our self
  • Being honest with our feelings and abilities:

o   Acknowledging your weakness is a sign of honesty and makes you stronger.

  • Asking versus commenting:

o   Don't assume, ask question

o   Don't comment, ask question

o   Don't judge, ask question

o   When in doubt, ask question

o   When you think you know, ask questions to clarify

o Comments are not welcome, questions are

ยท         What kind of question?

1. Open ended and unbiased questions

2. Yes-No questions to clarify

When you have a car problem whom you ask for help? your Doctor, mother or mechanic.

Although this question seems silly, we make this mistake all the time, asking a professional question from people outside of that profession and building opinions.

  • Ask questions from the right person(s). The ones with proven success.

 

You will learn more from the successful people who can show you how to succeed.

Unsuccessful people can show you how not to fail the way they did.

 While the pathways to success are few, there are multiple pathways to fail.

Which one is easier and more effective to learn?

 Uncle Google and my cousin YouTube can help you with any questions.

Starting my own business

  •  In order to have a good society/business, good structure is more important than good people.
  •  The main sources of work/interpersonal problems are: communication and expectations.
  •  Interpersonal skills are not just talking nicely but much more importantly is to follow a structure and    framework, even if it is not the best structure.
  • Having a poor structure is better than having no structure

I would I would recommend that you ask my uncle and cousin, Google and YouTube, about the following:

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  • Active listening
  •  Critical thinking
  • Yes-No question
  • Open ended question
  • how to be honest with oneself

 

After all My success and happiness depends on your success and happiness.

Let us make life better for all of us.