Why do we need to change?

Posted by Mohammed Nazari on Thursday, July 17, 2014 Under: Logic First - Emotion Third

We "change" when 1. we know there is a different way 2. There is a need for "change".

Author: Mohammed Nazari

"Need for change" will happen for one the following reasons:

1. Mandatory (Outside in change), such as law, social norm, reward on punishment

2. Voluntarily (Inside out change), inside drive and motive

1. Mandatory (Outside in change):


An immigrant to Canada has to follow the rules of Canada and can't behave the way they did back home, e.g. drive the speed limit, no bribing the police or other law enforcement officers, no honorary killing such as seen in some countries, physical fights get treated more seriously in Canada than some other countries.

Another example of outside obligations are when "new laws" are applied such as no smoking in public places, no discrimination based on gender, race, sexual orientation and so on.

In these scenarios one has to follow the new rules and laws or face the consequences.

Social norm:

This is one reason we have the saying "You are as good as the people around you". People choose their friends because of their similarities or do what their friends do to become similar to them.

Often people follow what others do especially if that someone is the one whom they have respect for. This is one of the best way in promoting a new behaviour, and very commonly used in TV commercials. e.g. using a celebrity to promote a "product" such as "Soap" or a "behaviour" like "recycling".

Which is more effective on you in order to promote "recycling":

A. Recycling will help the environment and avoids global warming

B. Most people recycle their plastic, paper and bottles

C. Showing the picture of a celebrity who is throwing the paper in the recycle bin

Studies show that option B and C are more effective. In another word "Reasoning" does not work as good as "Social norm". However there are people who are rather independent thinkers, and prefer the "reasoning" better than the social "norm/copy cat".

Reward or punishment:

Depending on the personality, culture, the nature of the change required, one may work better than the other. However it seems that generally in order to make a positive change "Reward" is more effective than "Punishment". I wish police would follow this rule, so that I would get a reward for driving the speed limit instead of a ticket for driving fast:( Reality is that at times reward is not practical and punishment works more effectively.

2. Voluntarily (Inside out change):

At times we change not because we "have to" but because we "want to". This happens often because we see a NEED for a new change. Such as becoming a vegetarian, tree hugger or in my case, becoming a blogger.

Outside in Change is when we can "teach" it but may not "do" it our self (modernization). Outside in change is needed for "mass result".

Inside out change is when we "do" it but may not know how to "teach" it (civilization). Inside out change is needed for "Innovation".

Change is a necessity of life

people who don't change are dead already, only they haven't made it official yet.

Change is Exciting not Stressful

In : Logic First - Emotion Third 

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A Personal Journey (Speech)

Author: Mohammed Nazari

Please find the link to the YouTube videos below

Part 1:

                               Part 2:

  •  It is amazing, when you have a big "goal" in mind, most other big "problems" look like small "challenges"       
  • Education in Canada is more practical than in the east which is more theoretical. After all you can find the theory in books or online, without needing to go to school.

Reasons for my failure as an employee:

1. Higher Canadian standards and sensitivity level  

2. My defensive behavior    

  •  Blaming  your behavior or action does not mean blaming you as a person
  • One for all, All for one

3. Inability to be honest with my own feelings  

  • Pride that has no basis, doesn't allow you to be honest.

4.  Canadian are too polite to be honest   

  •  If you don't have anything nice to say then don't say anything
  • Read between the lines


  •  Knowledge of higher/different Canadian standards and simply following versus questioning them
  •  Longer orientation
  •  Welcoming comments and asking for further explanation versus defending our self
  • Being honest with our feelings and abilities:

o   Acknowledging your weakness is a sign of honesty and makes you stronger.

  • Asking versus commenting:

o   Don't assume, ask question

o   Don't comment, ask question

o   Don't judge, ask question

o   When in doubt, ask question

o   When you think you know, ask questions to clarify

o Comments are not welcome, questions are

ยท         What kind of question?

1. Open ended and unbiased questions

2. Yes-No questions to clarify

When you have a car problem whom you ask for help? your Doctor, mother or mechanic.

Although this question seems silly, we make this mistake all the time, asking a professional question from people outside of that profession and building opinions.

  • Ask questions from the right person(s). The ones with proven success.


You will learn more from the successful people who can show you how to succeed.

Unsuccessful people can show you how not to fail the way they did.

 While the pathways to success are few, there are multiple pathways to fail.

Which one is easier and more effective to learn?

 Uncle Google and my cousin YouTube can help you with any questions.

Starting my own business

  •  In order to have a good society/business, good structure is more important than good people.
  •  The main sources of work/interpersonal problems are: communication and expectations.
  •  Interpersonal skills are not just talking nicely but much more importantly is to follow a structure and    framework, even if it is not the best structure.
  • Having a poor structure is better than having no structure

I would I would recommend that you ask my uncle and cousin, Google and YouTube, about the following:


  • Active listening
  •  Critical thinking
  • Yes-No question
  • Open ended question
  • how to be honest with oneself


After all My success and happiness depends on your success and happiness.

Let us make life better for all of us.